Introduction – How to Avoid Drama
Drama. It’s the bane of every person’s existence
And it can happen anywhere – work, school, home. Even if you’re not a huge fan of drama yourself, how do you avoid it? You can’t always stop other people from being dramatic or prevent them from starting drama with you. However, there are things within your control that can help minimize how often drama happens in your life! We’ve compiled 11 ways to avoid drama below.
Drama can seem attractive
Drama often arises from an overflow of emotion – when someone feels hurt, they lash out at others to make themselves feel better and vice versa! Try not to take things too personally by remembering that people say harsh things because they are hurting inside; however, this does not mean that their behavior is okay nor acceptable.
7 Ways to stay away from drama That Work
So what are those? Let’s take a look.
1) Avoiding drama is all about establishing boundaries and sticking to them, so start by being transparent with yourself and others on how much you can handle. You don’t have to be mean or rude; say something along the lines of “I know this isn’t my usual scene but I am feeling overwhelmed right now.” This way, everyone knows where you stand!
2) Be honest about your limits when it comes to people pushing the envelope or crossing boundaries – otherwise, you’ll find that they keep doing it! If something upsets you about the drama situation, find a private place (e.g., bathroom stall) to vent out some steam without adding any more fuel to the fire!
3) Do not get involved in other people’s problems unless explicitly asked for advice (or if they ask repeatedly). Remember, you don’t know what’s happening in their lives or how they feel, so it’s better to keep your mouth shut.
4) Don’t give people power over how you behave by getting worked up over their actions – instead of being reactive and taking everything personally, be proactive rather than letting them push your buttons!
5) Do not engage with someone who starts gossiping about others behind closed doors; if possible, try shutting down rumors before they get too far along. However, sometimes keeping quiet can do even more damage because it gives the other person time to spread hurtful words and gossip.
6) If you decide to confront the person, remember that it is hard for them not to feel attacked when you approach them about their behavior; try staying calm and using “I” statements such as: “When I saw what happened, I felt ____.” This way, they know how they made you feel without making things personal or getting too absorbed in negativity. Eventually, one may start believing those claims even though there might be no truth behind any of them!
7) Avoiding drama isn’t just a matter of limiting your exposure to people who cause problems – if someone brings up another’s bad qualities often enough. Instead of listening attentively and taking everything at face value (so much so that we were brainwashed!), consider whether this is something you should be concerned about or if it is likely a product of the other person’s insecurities.
More tips how to avoid drama
1. Be a kind person
2. Don’t gossip or talk about other people behind their backs
3. Listen to what others have to say without interrupting, and don’t judge them for it
4. Keep your emotions in check – don’t get angry outbursts or cry over every little thing that doesn’t go your way
5. Apologize when you make mistakes and forgive those who wrong you as well
6. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t blame others
7. Be a good friend – be there for them in times of need
8. Don’t spread rumors or lies about others
9. Do something kind for someone else daily – it could mean anything from holding the door open to picking up litter you see on the ground
10. Keep an open mind when meeting new people and experiencing new things, and remember that everyone is going through some difficulties, so try to have empathy even though you can never understand someone else’s experience precisely as they do
11. Respect yourself and your body by eating healthy, exercising regularly, sleeping enough, etc. And if someone tries to disrespect you in a harmful way, stand up for yourself and let them know that’s not okay
12. Remember that it’s important to laugh – don’t take anything or yourself too seriously
13. Be confident! Know your strengths, value what you have to offer as a person, and never settle for something less than what you deserve
14. Be humble – no one likes people who think they’re better than everyone/everything else
15. Don’t feel the need always to have the latest gadgets or clothes to be happy. It doesn’t define who you are as a person, nor does it validate your worth as a human being. Wearing expensive designer clothing or owning an iPhone won’t change your life, but being a kind-hearted person will
16. Be patient and understand that things don’t always happen as quickly as we want them to, and not everything is as easy as it looks (life). Sometimes you need to do some work or make sacrifices to get what you want – but if you’re persistent and work hard enough, anything is possible. Things usually fall into place after some time. Just be patient and keep your head up!
17. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and allow yourself space to change and grow
18. Be confident in who you are because people will only love the real you
19. Don’t take life too seriously – after all, we’re all just here temporarily trying to navigate through this strange thing called “life.” Enjoy the ride and appreciate every moment you get to spend here
20. Appreciate the people who are closest to you because they’re probably the ones who care about you most. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your mom, dad, significant other, best friend, etc.
21. Don’t be afraid to follow your dreams
The key to avoiding drama is not about how you react when it happens but rather what you do in the moments leading up to a possible altercation. It’s all about staying calm and understanding that most people don’t want conflict – they want someone who will listen and hear them out without judgment or retaliation.
The next time an argument with your partner seems inevitable, take some deep breaths before responding. Once you feel like things are under control, ask yourself: What does my partner need from me now?
This question may seem simple at first glance, but it requires quite a bit of introspection on our own needs as well as those of others we love deeply. After asking this question for ourselves, we can then translate our response into how to provide what our partners need at that moment.
Sometimes, it might be to walk away and breathe for a while. Other times, it could be an apology or an open-ended question to give them space for their thoughts and feelings to surface with the understanding that you are there any time they need someone to listen.