This post is intended to reveal the mysteries of leadership. Important to note, you don’t have to be the best leader. At least at first, eventually, the goal will be to go from a good leader to a great leader. So get ready to begin your own journey to greatness.
Why be a good leader
For the women, obviously. Just kidding. But seriously, though, the rewards to being a good leader abound. There are monetary rewards, influence, and power. Good leaders acquire vast amounts of knowledge. You can pass that knowledge down or use it to reshape the world in your image.
Another reason to be a good leader. Take a look at the competition. Look at the ruin that exists out there. This advice on leadership doesn’t candy-coat anything. Being a good leader means going up against all the bad leaders. And quite frankly, those bad leaders are running the show.
It’s up to us brave few to take this journey and learn the skills required to solve the endless problems humanity faces. As a result, we will be better off, and our environment will be better off.
Introduction to leadership skills
Some people may not have the personality traits required to be good leaders, and that’s fine. I would consider that rare, though. I believe everyone can change and grow as a person. More importantly, personality is what’s holding people back from their true potential as a leader.
I don’t equate everything with Ego. Ego is fine when used as a tool, but that requires a lot of self-control. In fact, I would argue nobody ever fully controls their egotistical impulse. The main point of this introduction is to teach you not to be hard on yourself.
What’s being described here is a process. If you get immediate results and alter your way of thinking great, you are way ahead of the curve. That’s the reality of good leadership. The bar is so high that everyone can make a little progress, which’s a win.
Good leaders have to drive. You don’t have to like it; you have to learn to do it with determination. Stubbornness can be faked, but real determination will seep out of your pores. Moreover, when you are that guy who is hyper determined, people will be drawn to you. It is then up to you to manage their expectations.
When you have a lot to offer, people are going to expect a lot. Plus, they are going to want more. This is a problem any leader has to deal with. In other words, it’s about managing people without seeing them as lesser. Also, your determination has to translate to a sense of fairness.
Determination without fairness is a waste. It’s like driving off the road with an excellent car. Ok, I’m done with the car analogies in this post. In the meantime, I think by now, most of you get the point.
By all means, have your arguments about patience. In any case, I would say that patience is the hardest skill for most people to learn. If you are naturally the patient type, I say kudos to you. It’s hard for me to slow down and be patient. But it’s key to good leadership and starts you on the path to great leadership.
My philosophy to be patient is to focus squarely on what you can control. If it’s time to wait, you wait and don’t overthink it. I call it the move on approach. Where instead of letting yourself get anxious, you move on to something else. This is another example of people being drawn to you.
If people are drawn to you, then let it all happen. Learn to let go of trying to micromanage everything. I’m not saying micromanagement isn’t a good skill; it definitely is. But there’s a big difference between a good micromanager getting a lot done and a good big picture type getting a lot done. And big picture type of thinking is where patience leads to.
Life is full of wins and losses. Anybody that tells you otherwise is not being real. Good leaders take their losses with integrity and calm. It’s the essence of what makes a person tough. You have to fall and get back up again. So try to think of it like this, every fall provides an opportunity.
There’s mental toughness and body toughness. While it’s nice to have both, the most important one is mentally tough. Not only do you have to take every loss personally, but you are going to be shamed and blamed more. If you need some examples, look at every sports superstar and how they conduct themselves.
Finally, for a big example of toughness, look at Socrates. He’s widely considered one of the fathers of philosophy, and he was ridiculed. At least, he was ridiculed while he was alive. More importantly, he was sentenced to death for being smart and going his own way. Now, I’m not here to teach you to be tough like Socrates; I’m here to teach you to be much tougher.
Add all the previous together, and you are on your way to being a good leader. Perhaps even a great leader, but without vision, where do you go? Vision is what gives you direction and guides all of your choices from here on out. Ask yourself a simple question: can you see what needs to be done? Moreover, can you see forward and solve problems before they happen.
To clarify, there are many ways to be forward-thinking. You can become a math pro and equate everything to probabilities. Or you can go with something philosophers like to call intuition. I never thought I would advocate for people to see with their feelings, but here we are. My intuition and experience brought me to you.
To illustrate, I’m wondering how many times did each of us not go with their “gut” only to be proven wrong? I know it happened to me a lot. But you don’t have to take my word for it. You can ask a Hinduist. They call it a “third eye” for a reason. Now I’m not trying to get mystical here. I’m just pointing out the correlation.
In short, this post will be updated and expanded on in the future. Ultimately the main takeaways are about picking your battles. And learning to apply your personal experience in the right way. All in all, when you focus efficiently on these types of positive leadership skills, they are what spreads outward.