King Henry VIII is often cited as a classic example of a narcissistic ruler. He felt entitled to whatever pleased him, whether it was power, wealth, or women, which led to his infamous series of marriages.
1. Grandiose Narcissist
- Description: This is the classic image most people have of a narcissist—someone who is arrogant, attention-seeking, and confident.
- Behavior: Grandiose narcissists crave admiration, feel entitled, and often come across as charming at first. They like to be in control and can become very competitive or domineering.
- Example: Think of someone who constantly boasts about their achievements and believes they’re superior to others.
2. Vulnerable (or Covert) Narcissist
- Description: Vulnerable narcissists are more insecure and sensitive, but they still need validation and recognition.
- Behavior: Instead of openly seeking admiration, they might play the victim, appear shy, or act hurt to get sympathy. They are highly sensitive to criticism and can feel easily slighted.
- Example: Imagine someone who always needs reassurance, who may say things like, “Nobody appreciates me,” hoping others will validate them.
3. Malignant Narcissist
- Description: This is the most dangerous type, as malignant narcissists show signs of aggression and a lack of empathy.
- Behavior: They may be manipulative, exploit others, and enjoy making people feel small or powerless. They can also exhibit traits of antisocial personality disorder.
- Example: A person who uses lies, threats, or intimidation to control others and seems to enjoy causing pain or discomfort.
4. Communal Narcissist
- Description: Communal narcissists gain their sense of self-importance through their generosity or good deeds.
- Behavior: They often emphasize how caring or charitable they are, but it’s usually for the attention and validation it brings them. They want to be seen as the most compassionate or giving.
- Example: Someone who constantly talks about their volunteer work but mostly to hear others praise them.
5. Self-Righteous Narcissist
- Description: This type believes they are morally superior and may impose their standards on others.
- Behavior: They tend to be critical of others’ behavior and believe their way is the “right” way. They often hold themselves up as an example of high integrity, but this can be judgmental or even controlling.
- Example: Think of someone who constantly critiques others for not living up to their moral standards and who expects everyone to admire their “perfect” principles.