The typical methods of dealing with narcissists no longer work. That means people need a new playbook to deal with them. This is especially true with parents because, quite frankly, the methods to deal with them never worked. At least not very well. These days you can practically throw away all of the old tips that only sound good.
How do you have “no contact” with someone stuck in your head?
The answer to the previous question is, that you don’t and conventional wisdom tells people to create boundaries that nobody will respect and project confidence nobody will believe in or care about.
What To Do Instead
The truth is out there, Fox. You just have to look for it. A dog is a pretty confident animal too and can mark its territory. That’s fine, but how is it good advice to deal with anything? In other words, what you need aren’t boundaries or confidence, what you need the most is space.
If you look at the dog from the perspective of creating space or taking space the dog mostly takes space.
Create Space
I know what people are thinking, “what do you mean”? I mean you have to have your own thing where other people’s validation isn’t a requirement or desire. That thing can be whatever you want within reason.
Most of you are probably already adapting to the same narcissism with the same struggles and have tried to just go off on your own where some reality sets in. The inches you create don’t feel like enough and you give in to the same basic instincts.
On Low Vibes
People get on low vibrational frequencies, but what does empathy compel us to do in that situation?
Empathy doesn’t compel us to do anything. It’s the narcissist who might want to fix it or get salty over stuff that nobody cares about.
Is Saying Nobody Cares Nihilism?
It’s not if the statement is true.
Ultimately, everyone wants to be their own boss and you can chalk it up to genetics or conditioning. The difference in origin doesn’t matter because we are who we are. Problems are rarely on the horizon because of that one person being their own boss. The problems tend to come from one person trying to be everyone’s boss.
